While Away

[jmsspratlin]

Since I have left, not only the trip of a lifetime, but, I have come to realize that it seems that through a person'e voice, you can tell when it is not quite as exciting for the other person to talk to you. I have been away going on 2 weeks and this is now the norm. Even in the remote times I have the opportunity to call, the line is either busy (around 10 or 11PM in the states) or no answer. Also, just in the last few, I have scanned the site, only to find out through here about a bear. You'd think that this would make for atleast a mention during conversation, rather than the fact that "I visited my grandparents church today". Although it is said that the other one misses the other, I am now finding that maybe I am wrong for even trying so hard to even contact home (i.e. waiting hours to make a 10-15 phone call) I guess it is def true....absence makes the heart grow fonder for some, while out of site out of mind for the most. I guess I need to adopt the latter of the 2. Being that she does seem to check this site more than her email, I hope she reads this and realizes that I am about through going that extra step just to contact her. At this point contacting other family members is more important. I will def make some changes in my family, once I return home.

[Big Dad]

Jamie,

I got to ask you this....

I noticed your signature when you posted it....

Do you think that after being there...a part of you will always be left behind...you know, in the place you refer to as hell?

And....

At some point in time in the future -- do you think you'll ever miss being there in a fond type way? Like, when it's the middle of the night and the fam is asleep...after everything is back to the so-called norm?

Whats your thoughts?

Jeff

[jmsspratlin]

Originally Posted by Big Dad

Jamie,

I got to ask you this....

I noticed your signature when you posted it....

Do you think that after being there...a part of you will always be left behind...you know, in the place you refer to as hell?

And....

At some point in time in the future -- do you think you'll ever miss being there in a fond type way? Like, when it's the middle of the night and the fam is asleep...after everything is back to the so-called norm?

Whats your thoughts?

Jeff

Funny you ask. I do think part of me will always be here. I have experienced alot in the short time I have been here. Not only via outside experiences, but also personally. I don't think ...at this point, that there is truly a norm for anyone put into a combat situation. Although I'm not a "front liner", I have seen and delt with things that only a like individual would understand.

[H2wifey]

Jamie, you can read your email to see what I have to say about this I have done nothing but be miserable with out you here. I called up to the unit and spoke with someone up there who said he tried to call multiple times and it was busy I don't just sit on the phone he told me it was somting wrong with the connection but it is amazing how when you called from a calling card it went through so it must have been something that he was doing wrong at your work just read your email Thanks Jinsey

[frenzy1]

[jmsspratlin]

Originally Posted by H2wifey

Jamie, you can read your email to see what I have to say about this I have done nothing but be miserable with out you here. I called up to the unit and spoke with someone up there who said he tried to call multiple times and it was busy I don't just sit on the phone he told me it was somting wrong with the connection but it is amazing how when you called from a calling card it went through so it must have been something that he was doing wrong at your work just read your email Thanks Jinsey

Thanks

[Hmmm2]

Jamie, I have to tell you that I have total admiration for all of the military guys and gals in Iraq and Afghanistan. That being said ... I think there must be so much pressure on the individual deployed .. just the time to think on the way there, not knowing what to expect .. not knowing what can happen to anyone around you. In the meanwhile, your wife is back in the states. I think the spouse also goes through a sort of denial period knowing that her husband could be in harm's way .. and is away for a number of months. She tries to go about her day .. get through her day .. not wanting to think how many more of those days are ahead of her. Probably going online here is also a way for her to feel a connection to you since you used to post here (and still do) frequently. It's like common ground and a place you both used to come to at the same time. This is not anything close to a comparison by any means, but when my husband takes long business trips, I find myself putting on the 24/7 news radio station that he always listens to, although I dislike it. It sort of makes me feel as if he is here. I know, weird. I think you need to give your wife the benefit of the doubt .. what she is saying could very well be 100% true. You both need to be close emotionally now, not apart. I know someone who has done 3 tours already. He and his wife just have total trust in one another. You have to have trust or all will be lost. Sorry to go on and on here .. just my 2 cents and thoughts, that's all. Stay strong .. and wifey, too. The homecoming will be like one you could never imagine. My thoughts are with you two. You're both great people.

[jmsspratlin]

Originally Posted by Hmmm3

Jamie, I have to tell you that I have total admiration for all of the military guys and gals in Iraq and Afghanistan. That being said ... I think there must be so much pressure on the individual deployed .. just the time to think on the way there, not knowing what to expect .. not knowing what can happen to anyone around you. In the meanwhile, your wife is back in the states. I think the spouse also goes through a sort of denial period knowing that her husband could be in harm's way .. and is away for a number of months. She tries to go about her day .. get through her day .. not wanting to think how many more of those days are ahead of her. Probably going online here is also a way for her to feel a connection to you since you used to post here (and still do) frequently. It's like common ground and a place you both used to come to at the same time. This is not anything close to a comparison by any means, but when my husband takes long business trips, I find myself putting on the 24/7 news radio station that he always listens to, although I dislike it. It sort of makes me feel as if he is here. I know, weird. I think you need to give your wife the benefit of the doubt .. what she is saying could very well be 100% true. You both need to be close emotionally now, not apart. I know someone who has done 3 tours already. He and his wife just have total trust in one another. You have to have trust or all will be lost. Sorry to go on and on here .. just my 2 cents and thoughts, that's all. Stay strong .. and wifey, too. The homecoming will be like one you could never imagine. My thoughts are with you two. You're both great people.

But don't you think that CO is probably the reason Tower came out of the closet? I guess those Col hillbilly's have nothing better to do than rape their livestock.

[Hmmm2]

Jamie, you're scared now about the relationship because you've been 'burned once' and now you're not home to keep an eye on things. Please don't dwell on things like that now. The relationship obviously got back to where it was and now you .. both of you .. need to be strong and support one another. I can tell you that distrust will eat you up without reason. Jinsey openly states here how much she misses you. I think that wouldn't even be mentioned to everyone here if it wasn't meant. Really. Being burned once is not fun, but everyone is human and mistakes can be made. Then, we have to accept the apology and give the other person the benefit of the doubt, accept the apology and go on with life. Please don't think now that you could never have trust becasue of that one time. I don't know the circumstances, but hopefully both of you can get past it. Keep an open mind and talk with one another .. even if it's by e-mail. Sometimes it's easier to write what is on your mind than to verbalize it. Keeping you guys in my prayers. Stay strong for one another .. Jamie and Jinsey .. you both need to support each other now. Jamie will be home soon and all will be well. Just my thoughts .. not wanting to bud in.

[CO Hummer]

Originally Posted by jmsspratlin

Since I have left, not only the trip of a lifetime, but, I have come to realize that it seems that through a person'e voice, you can tell when it is not quite as exciting for the other person to talk to you. I have been away going on 2 weeks and this is now the norm. Even in the remote times I have the opportunity to call, the line is either busy (around 10 or 11PM in the states) or no answer. Also, just in the last few, I have scanned the site, only to find out through here about a bear. You'd think that this would make for atleast a mention during conversation, rather than the fact that "I visited my grandparents church today". Although it is said that the other one misses the other, I am now finding that maybe I am wrong for even trying so hard to even contact home (i.e. waiting hours to make a 10-15 phone call) I guess it is def true....absence makes the heart grow fonder for some, while out of site out of mind for the most. I guess I need to adopt the latter of the 2. Being that she does seem to check this site more than her email, I hope she reads this and realizes that I am about through going that extra step just to contact her. At this point contacting other family members is more important. I will def make some changes in my family, once I return home.

You are such a little punk. Why don't you grow the hell up and act like man. You've been gone a total of two weeks and you're whining like a little schoolgirl over absolutely nothing. I'm still LMAO that you're doing it on a public forum. Show your buddies over there what you're doing and they'll probably beat the crap out of you.

[DennisAJC]

Originally Posted by jmsspratlin

Since I have left, not only the trip of a lifetime, but, I have come to realize that it seems that through a person'e voice, you can tell when it is not quite as exciting for the other person to talk to you. I have been away going on 2 weeks and this is now the norm. Even in the remote times I have the opportunity to call, the line is either busy (around 10 or 11PM in the states) or no answer. Also, just in the last few, I have scanned the site, only to find out through here about a bear. You'd think that this would make for atleast a mention during conversation, rather than the fact that "I visited my grandparents church today". Although it is said that the other one misses the other, I am now finding that maybe I am wrong for even trying so hard to even contact home (i.e. waiting hours to make a 10-15 phone call) I guess it is def true....absence makes the heart grow fonder for some, while out of site out of mind for the most. I guess I need to adopt the latter of the 2. Being that she does seem to check this site more than her email, I hope she reads this and realizes that I am about through going that extra step just to contact her. At this point contacting other family members is more important. I will def make some changes in my family, once I return home.

Holy insecurity Batman!!! Not something you should be even exposing to the group thar Jamie. Hands down you're having a tough time adjusting but to lay it on thick when you guys are worlds apart doesn't make things any better. Your wifey is probably dealing with it in her own way.

These kind of long distance correspondence where guilt trips and threats of cleaning house when you return just doesn't work out man. You'll find it will only make things worst and as months progress, it will eat you inside and affect your job.

Love, support and understanding. Insecurity only breaks you further apart.

I've watched enough Jerry Springer to know that I am right on this.

[DRTYFN]

[Mr. I - Man]

Originally Posted by DennisAJC

Holy insecurity Batman!!! Not something you should be even exposing to the group thar Jamie. Hands down you're having a tough time adjusting but to lay it on thick when you guys are worlds apart doesn't make things any better. Your wifey is probably dealing with it in her own way.

These kind of long distance correspondence where guilt trips and threats of cleaning house when you return just doesn't work out man. You'll find it will only make things worst and as months progress, it will eat you inside and affect your job.

Love, support and understanding. Insecurity only breaks you further apart.

I've watched enough Jerry Springer to know that I am right on this.

This is why I didn't get married until after I was out of the Corps!

BTW women are like cars if they sit too long without being turned over or on they are bound to give you problems and cold engine makes for a cold home coming. All she needs is a special girlfriend to distract her from missing you and to crank her over and turn her on every once in a while.

Sorry if this sounds harsh but reality sucks.

[H2Blondie]

Originally Posted by jmsspratlin

Since I have left, not only the trip of a lifetime, but, I have come to realize that it seems that through a person'e voice, you can tell when it is not quite as exciting for the other person to talk to you. I have been away going on 2 weeks and this is now the norm. Even in the remote times I have the opportunity to call, the line is either busy (around 10 or 11PM in the states) or no answer. Also, just in the last few, I have scanned the site, only to find out through here about a bear. You'd think that this would make for atleast a mention during conversation, rather than the fact that "I visited my grandparents church today". Although it is said that the other one misses the other, I am now finding that maybe I am wrong for even trying so hard to even contact home (i.e. waiting hours to make a 10-15 phone call) I guess it is def true....absence makes the heart grow fonder for some, while out of site out of mind for the most. I guess I need to adopt the latter of the 2. Being that she does seem to check this site more than her email, I hope she reads this and realizes that I am about through going that extra step just to contact her. At this point contacting other family members is more important. I will def make some changes in my family, once I return home.

Jamie, talk like this is not going to help your situation one bit! If anything, she will grow to resent you for these jealous feelings you put into public posts. I'm not saying that she's living like an angel while you're away because I don't know either one of you, but for you to make implications otherwise without first-hand knowledge is only going to make things worse. Give her the benefit of the doubt; if you can't trust her, you shouldn't have married her in the first place!

[RubHer Yellow Ducky]

Yon notice Wifey hasn't posted since early...She knows she's wrong and is being a "GOOD HUMBLE WIFE" AGAIN...

cause

she knows what will happen if she acts up again...

Jamie, don't you worry, she will be "WELL TRAINED" by the time you get back...

ALL YOUR FRIENDS HERE will see to it...

[H2Blondie]

Right..."well trained" to think on her own!

[Hmmm2]

Originally Posted by RubHer Yellow Ducky

Yon notice Wifey hasn't posted since early...She knows she's wrong and is being a "GOOD HUMBLE WIFE" AGAIN...

cause

she knows what will happen if she acts up again...

Jamie, don't you worry, she will be "WELL TRAINED" by the time you get back...

ALL YOUR FRIENDS HERE will see to it...

WHAT?!?!?!?!?! You've got to be kidding!! Uhhh, that's not the way it works, RYD. Where are those Coneheads when we need them ....

[Big Dad]

War is hell....

[KenP]

Be safe, Jamie.

[CO Hummer]

Originally Posted by H2Blondie

Jamie, talk like this is not going to help your situation one bit! If anything, she will grow to resent you for these jealous feelings you put into public posts. I'm not saying that she's living like an angel while you're away because I don't know either one of you, but for you to make implications otherwise without first-hand knowledge is only going to make things worse. Give her the benefit of the doubt; if you can't trust her, you shouldn't have married her in the first place!

Well what did you do when Tower was out the in the mountains with the National Ski Patrol hunting down lost skiers for weeks at a time.