Satan strikes again.

[Hmmm2]

I know you must feel miserable going into that type of work environment everyday. We're laughing because that woman sounds incapable, unreal, and without a clue as to how to treat another human being. What a nightmare. I wonder if you could have a recorder on you to catch some of the ridiculous expectations she has... you know, one of those micro-recorders you could slip in a pocket? Then, take it to a lawyer. A "communication problem"???? Are they joking??

[Wisha Haddan H3]

Yeah, if the genders were reversed it would be a different story. Men are stereotyped as being stronger and more aggressive than women. This leads to the reverse stereotype that a female manager (who is by nature weaker and less aggressive) couldn't possibly harass a male employee.

I'm not surprised you got so little sympathy from your female director about your female manager. It's easier for people to assume that any perceived harassment from the woman stems from the man's inability to accept her authority, rather than her belligerence or incompetence.

What's your company's policy on "hostile work environment"? If you have one, that would sidestep the gender issue and get to the core of her irrational behavior.