While Away

[jmsspratlin]

Since I have left, not only the trip of a lifetime, but, I have come to realize that it seems that through a person'e voice, you can tell when it is not quite as exciting for the other person to talk to you. I have been away going on 2 weeks and this is now the norm. Even in the remote times I have the opportunity to call, the line is either busy (around 10 or 11PM in the states) or no answer. Also, just in the last few, I have scanned the site, only to find out through here about a bear. You'd think that this would make for atleast a mention during conversation, rather than the fact that "I visited my grandparents church today". Although it is said that the other one misses the other, I am now finding that maybe I am wrong for even trying so hard to even contact home (i.e. waiting hours to make a 10-15 phone call) I guess it is def true....absence makes the heart grow fonder for some, while out of site out of mind for the most. I guess I need to adopt the latter of the 2. Being that she does seem to check this site more than her email, I hope she reads this and realizes that I am about through going that extra step just to contact her. At this point contacting other family members is more important. I will def make some changes in my family, once I return home.

[Big Dad]

Jamie,

I got to ask you this....

I noticed your signature when you posted it....

Do you think that after being there...a part of you will always be left behind...you know, in the place you refer to as hell?

And....

At some point in time in the future -- do you think you'll ever miss being there in a fond type way? Like, when it's the middle of the night and the fam is asleep...after everything is back to the so-called norm?

Whats your thoughts?

Jeff

[H2wifey]

Jamie, you can read your email to see what I have to say about this I have done nothing but be miserable with out you here. I called up to the unit and spoke with someone up there who said he tried to call multiple times and it was busy I don't just sit on the phone he told me it was somting wrong with the connection but it is amazing how when you called from a calling card it went through so it must have been something that he was doing wrong at your work just read your email Thanks Jinsey

[frenzy1]

[jmsspratlin]

Originally Posted by Big Dad

Jamie,

I got to ask you this....

I noticed your signature when you posted it....

Do you think that after being there...a part of you will always be left behind...you know, in the place you refer to as hell?

And....

At some point in time in the future -- do you think you'll ever miss being there in a fond type way? Like, when it's the middle of the night and the fam is asleep...after everything is back to the so-called norm?

Whats your thoughts?

Jeff

Funny you ask. I do think part of me will always be here. I have experienced alot in the short time I have been here. Not only via outside experiences, but also personally. I don't think ...at this point, that there is truly a norm for anyone put into a combat situation. Although I'm not a "front liner", I have seen and delt with things that only a like individual would understand.

[jmsspratlin]

Originally Posted by H2wifey

Jamie, you can read your email to see what I have to say about this I have done nothing but be miserable with out you here. I called up to the unit and spoke with someone up there who said he tried to call multiple times and it was busy I don't just sit on the phone he told me it was somting wrong with the connection but it is amazing how when you called from a calling card it went through so it must have been something that he was doing wrong at your work just read your email Thanks Jinsey

Thanks

[Hmmm2]

Jamie, I have to tell you that I have total admiration for all of the military guys and gals in Iraq and Afghanistan. That being said ... I think there must be so much pressure on the individual deployed .. just the time to think on the way there, not knowing what to expect .. not knowing what can happen to anyone around you. In the meanwhile, your wife is back in the states. I think the spouse also goes through a sort of denial period knowing that her husband could be in harm's way .. and is away for a number of months. She tries to go about her day .. get through her day .. not wanting to think how many more of those days are ahead of her. Probably going online here is also a way for her to feel a connection to you since you used to post here (and still do) frequently. It's like common ground and a place you both used to come to at the same time. This is not anything close to a comparison by any means, but when my husband takes long business trips, I find myself putting on the 24/7 news radio station that he always listens to, although I dislike it. It sort of makes me feel as if he is here. I know, weird. I think you need to give your wife the benefit of the doubt .. what she is saying could very well be 100% true. You both need to be close emotionally now, not apart. I know someone who has done 3 tours already. He and his wife just have total trust in one another. You have to have trust or all will be lost. Sorry to go on and on here .. just my 2 cents and thoughts, that's all. Stay strong .. and wifey, too. The homecoming will be like one you could never imagine. My thoughts are with you two. You're both great people.

[jmsspratlin]

Originally Posted by Hmmm3

Jamie, I have to tell you that I have total admiration for all of the military guys and gals in Iraq and Afghanistan. That being said ... I think there must be so much pressure on the individual deployed .. just the time to think on the way there, not knowing what to expect .. not knowing what can happen to anyone around you. In the meanwhile, your wife is back in the states. I think the spouse also goes through a sort of denial period knowing that her husband could be in harm's way .. and is away for a number of months. She tries to go about her day .. get through her day .. not wanting to think how many more of those days are ahead of her. Probably going online here is also a way for her to feel a connection to you since you used to post here (and still do) frequently. It's like common ground and a place you both used to come to at the same time. This is not anything close to a comparison by any means, but when my husband takes long business trips, I find myself putting on the 24/7 news radio station that he always listens to, although I dislike it. It sort of makes me feel as if he is here. I know, weird. I think you need to give your wife the benefit of the doubt .. what she is saying could very well be 100% true. You both need to be close emotionally now, not apart. I know someone who has done 3 tours already. He and his wife just have total trust in one another. You have to have trust or all will be lost. Sorry to go on and on here .. just my 2 cents and thoughts, that's all. Stay strong .. and wifey, too. The homecoming will be like one you could never imagine. My thoughts are with you two. You're both great people.

But don't you think that CO is probably the reason Tower came out of the closet? I guess those Col hillbilly's have nothing better to do than rape their livestock.

[Hmmm2]

Jamie, you're scared now about the relationship because you've been 'burned once' and now you're not home to keep an eye on things. Please don't dwell on things like that now. The relationship obviously got back to where it was and now you .. both of you .. need to be strong and support one another. I can tell you that distrust will eat you up without reason. Jinsey openly states here how much she misses you. I think that wouldn't even be mentioned to everyone here if it wasn't meant. Really. Being burned once is not fun, but everyone is human and mistakes can be made. Then, we have to accept the apology and give the other person the benefit of the doubt, accept the apology and go on with life. Please don't think now that you could never have trust becasue of that one time. I don't know the circumstances, but hopefully both of you can get past it. Keep an open mind and talk with one another .. even if it's by e-mail. Sometimes it's easier to write what is on your mind than to verbalize it. Keeping you guys in my prayers. Stay strong for one another .. Jamie and Jinsey .. you both need to support each other now. Jamie will be home soon and all will be well. Just my thoughts .. not wanting to bud in.

[CO Hummer]

Originally Posted by jmsspratlin

Since I have left, not only the trip of a lifetime, but, I have come to realize that it seems that through a person'e voice, you can tell when it is not quite as exciting for the other person to talk to you. I have been away going on 2 weeks and this is now the norm. Even in the remote times I have the opportunity to call, the line is either busy (around 10 or 11PM in the states) or no answer. Also, just in the last few, I have scanned the site, only to find out through here about a bear. You'd think that this would make for atleast a mention during conversation, rather than the fact that "I visited my grandparents church today". Although it is said that the other one misses the other, I am now finding that maybe I am wrong for even trying so hard to even contact home (i.e. waiting hours to make a 10-15 phone call) I guess it is def true....absence makes the heart grow fonder for some, while out of site out of mind for the most. I guess I need to adopt the latter of the 2. Being that she does seem to check this site more than her email, I hope she reads this and realizes that I am about through going that extra step just to contact her. At this point contacting other family members is more important. I will def make some changes in my family, once I return home.

You are such a little punk. Why don't you grow the hell up and act like man. You've been gone a total of two weeks and you're whining like a little schoolgirl over absolutely nothing. I'm still LMAO that you're doing it on a public forum. Show your buddies over there what you're doing and they'll probably beat the crap out of you.

[H2wifey]

Originally Posted by Hmmm3

Jamie, you're scared now about the relationship because you've been 'burned once' and now you're not home to keep an eye on things. Please don't dwell on things like that now. The relationship obviously got back to where it was and now you .. both of you .. need to be strong and support one another. I can tell you that distrust will eat you up without reason. Jinsey openly states here how much she misses you. I think that wouldn't even be mentioned to everyone here if it wasn't meant. Really. Being burned once is not fun, but everyone is human and mistakes can be made. Then, we have to accept the apology and give the other person the benefit of the doubt, accept the apology and go on with life. Please don't think now that you could never have trust becasue of that one time. I don't know the circumstances, but hopefully both of you can get past it. Keep an open mind and talk with one another .. even if it's by e-mail. Sometimes it's easier to write what is on your mind than to verbalize it. Keeping you guys in my prayers. Stay strong for one another .. Jamie and Jinsey .. you both need to support each other now. Jamie will be home soon and all will be well. Just my thoughts .. not wanting to bud in.

Thanks I agree totally I'm not even the person who cheated on him, Like you said being on this forum not only helps to pass time and reminds me of Jamie and I do MISS HIM i just hate it when he calls here and is mad at me thinking I don't want to talk to him I Love to talk to him I just hate the fact that he doesn't trust me

Thanks Jinsey

[CO Hummer]

Has anyone ever seen tower and Jamie in the same place at the same time?

[RubHer Yellow Ducky]

I detect some hostility on this thread........

my suggestion to BOTH out you is to air your DIRTY LAUNDRY AWAY from this forum and to

GROW UP !!!

all marriages have/had problems...while in VN it happened to MANY people...the advice we got was

grow up !!!

[jmsspratlin]

Originally Posted by CO Hummer

Has anyone ever seen tower and Jamie in the same place at the same time?

I don't even know her.

[jmsspratlin]

Originally Posted by RubHer Yellow Ducky

I detect some hostility on this thread........

my suggestion to BOTH out you is to air your DIRTY LAUNDRY AWAY from this forum and to

GROW UP !!!

all marriages have/had problems...while in VN it happened to MANY people...the advice we got was

grow up !!!

I agree. However, would "growing out" (as in your case) also work

[ChiHummer3]

[jmsspratlin]

Issue has been resolved. Thanks for playing.

[RubHer Yellow Ducky]

Originally Posted by jmsspratlin

I agree. However, would "growing out" (as in your case) also work

YES

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[CO Hummer]

Originally Posted by jmsspratlin

Issue has been resolved. Thanks for playing.

Well goodie, goodie. We are so glad a Hummer forum could solve your marital problems.

It's always nice to have young control freaks budding in our midst. I give you less than 5 years until you start beating her.

[RubHer Yellow Ducky]

[quote=CO Hummer]Well goodie, goodie. We are so glad a Hummer forum could solve your marital problems.

It's always nice to have young control freaks budding in our midst. I give you less than 5 years until you start beating her