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[KenP]

I wholeheartedly agree. Therapy is necessary for him, however, with the limited info we have, I'm hesitant to recommend a course of action based on internet activity and rumors.

He may be conflicted within the conformity-deviant dichotomy so prevalant in today's single male population.

In our fast-changing world the moral, legal, and medical standards for sexual behavior may not always remain in agreement and may even become mutually exclusive. That is to say, our very conformity to one standard may come to imply our deviation from another. For example, a modern nonorgasmic man may be asked by his therapist to masturbate frequently in order to become "fully functional". However, the same man may be told by his clergyman that masturbation is a sin which will be punished by God. In short, he is given the choice between being either healthy and immoral or moral and sick. No matter how he decides, he ends up violating a sexual norm. By the same token, his therapist who recommends masturbation may thereby break a criminal law. (At least one state in the U.S. makes it a crime to encourage someone to masturbate.) Still, his professional ethics may demand that he give that encouragement. In short, his choice is between being either law-abiding and immoral or moral and criminal. Thus, he, too, is confronted with a dilemma. We could, of course, explore this conflict of norms even further by considering the therapist's possible religious beliefs or the medical views of the clergyman, but the main point of the argument should already be clear: Deviance as well as conformity are relative terms, and their concrete meaning varies with the social context.