Opinions please

[H2Singh]

OK so I am putting my money where my mouth is this weekend. Happy 4th of July to all.
Anyways, I am getting H2 Lux, Black with Air susp, nav and sunroof. Looking into the following aesthetic options, what do you think

1. Black grille
2. Chrome brush guard
3. Chrome Fuel cap
Should I get anything else from the dealer or should I get these aftermarket.

Other things on wish list for aftermarket (unless someone thinks the dealer should install):
1. Reclining 2nd row seats
2. Rear view camera
3. Cd changer
4. DVD and screens in headrest for the kiddies
5. Mirror Hummer logo in rear bumper, the smoked one.
6. New Intake (including new tower)
7. off road exhaust
8. some comp flash or other engine mgmt upgrade.
9. Ipod attatchment

Please, please do not let my wife see this list. Thanks to all who give an opinion. Will hopefully be in Moab this October.